What Does “Healing Suicide” Mean?
“Healing Suicide” means two things to me:
1. As you’ll read on this site, all souls live many lives across the Earth time line. Within each of us – in the unconscious – is stored memories of major events from many lives. These events are both good and bad, joyful and painful. The memories can surface at any time during life.
When a person is under pressure and feeling stressed, perceiving that there are no options and no way out of the difficulty and pain he or she is saturated with and feeling stuck in, it’s possible for a memory of hopelessness — or even suicide — from another life to surface.
What that feels like could be an inner urgency to end it all, to end his or her life. An inner voice feeling despair might persist, overly focused on what the painful or difficult thing that suicide would be expected to alleviate. The person might find this voice’s urgency overwhelming, and it is easy for any of us to believe such inner voices attached to strong emotion to be who we are. (Ahem, it isn’t, but we can tend to believe it is until we understand what emotion is and how to deal with them.)
Most of us are not sensitive enough to our consciousnesses, energy fields, and bodies to be able to tell apart other-life selves, which we usually call past-life selves. Those who are intuitive might have been able to fine-tune their awareness to the point that they can tell, but this takes time and effort. Most people just go with what they’re feeling, believing that feeling is who they are.
When we don’t know how to deal with what life brings us — or what our choices have created — we might believe that there’s no solution in sight. Since many people over the history of the Earth time line have committed suicide, it’s likely that somewhere in the multilife journey of each of us it has seemed the only possible choice.
And so “healing suicide” is part of a teaching I offer to heal our memories of other-life suicides, including the kinds of despair, hopelessness, and nihilism that can lead to, inspire, and come with it.
2. It is my intention that this information be of service to survivors of loved ones’ suicides and the effects those deaths have had on them and their families.
In my client work, I have worked with people wondering what they could have done differently with a loved one who took his or her own life. Many have also expressed guilt that they didn’t stop him or her, or weren’t available at the right time, or didn’t pay attention to what are later considered warning signs. But all of them wonder what happens to a person after taking his or her life, and what you will read on these pages has served my clients over the years to understand the bigger picture of their loved ones’ lives and how to understand the role that suicide played in their souls’ journeys.
A main motivation I carry in my work is to show you, if I can, the larger picture of what’s happening and why. In the context of the survivors of a loved one’s suicide, I mean this to hold space for the living to make peace with the reality of a loved one’s suicide. Grief must take place, and it must unfold as it needs to, on its own timeline (which is unique for each of us). But it will not unfold naturally if those left behind do not understand why the suicide took place and what happened to their loved one after death. They will not feel ready to let go if they perceive their loved one is still suffering, stuck somewhere and unable to go into the light, or has done an evil through the suicide and is being punished in some way, somewhere, by someone.
And so the second meaning of “healing suicide” is all about supporting the living survivors in understanding the soul-level picture and processing their grief so they do not carry it and are not blocked from living their lives fully because of it. It’s real, and it needs conscious attention, but it doesn’t need to stop us from living.
Keep reading: What a Soul is and How It Understands Its Human Life